I first met Mandy at a networking event and was immediately struck by way in which she engages with others. She holds her space in a friendly but firm way and the sense I had of her was that this woman has a deep understanding of herself and she wasn’t afraid of asserting that. What I loved most though, was that she did it in a way that felt authentic and that it came from a place of compassion and love. She stood out for me as an example of someone who is content with who she is, and that inspired me to want to feature her on my Confidence According To… series.
In this interview, Mandy shares her thoughts and insights into confidence.
As a performance coach Mandy is familiar with confidence at all levels. From entrepreneurs to high level executives.
In this interview, Mandy shares her thoughts on confidence from both a personal and a professional perspective.
*Image Credit: Tony Figueira, www.studio77namibia.com
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My mother was strong and independent in many ways, she wasn’t always confident but had many times when she showed the world that she was, I certainly didn’t see her as a role model at the time, but via osmosis it definitely rubbed off
What’s the best advice you received to boost your confidence when you were younger?
I don’t recall ever having been given any
What was the biggest influence on your confidence (good or bad) up to the age of 25?
Oooh that was a long time ago…
Rate your current level of Self Confidence
Very High Level of Self Confidence
What does confidence mean to you?
Being grounded and feeling powerful within your self, not needing any outside affirmation and confirmation but appreciating it when it does happen. A good benchmark is if you can sit in a restaurant by yourself and enjoy a meal whilst not feeling self conscious or hiding in your phone!
When was a time you felt your most confident?
I’m feeling it currently, at 49 years old
How do you celebrate yourself on a regular basis?
I have my hair cut / done every single month and I realize what a difference that makes for me personally. I meditate daily I choose clothes that I feel good in, even if they are 10 years old, I re-invent them and still feel great wearing them.
I’m better about setting boundaries and feel fine to say ‘no’ if I need time with myself, this is particularly important during menstruation, I honour the cocoon space whilst menstruating, and keep work commitments much lighter during that time. In fact I’m much more focussed on running my business from feminine energy and working on a 28 day cycle. I walk the labyrinth at Green Point Park and one on the Koppie outside my home in Prince Albert, and I focus on gratitude for my life I’m highly trained in ‘Acknowledgement’ so I regularly acknowledge others and myself for even the smallest accomplishments.
When was a time you did NOT feel confident?
Whilst healing from my divorce (2012) and choosing not to marry the man I thought I would, post my divorce, (2015) it takes courage to heal ethically and my coaches play a critical role
What online resources (websites, blogs, forums) boost your confidence?
Surrounding myself with amazing people (women and some men) who stand for my greatness, and don’t tolerate any smallness, nothing online (is that dating me – again!) I’ve also cleared out my circles from time to time – and that’s hard as a loyal person, but it’s vital and I should have done it sooner and more regularly. Also bear in mind I’ve spent 20years in the personal transformation space and I believe very strongly in ongoing growth and development.
What advice would you give to a girl or woman who clearly has low confidence or low self love?
Get interested in your personal transformation – two courses that were ground breaking for me were the Landmark Forum, offered by Landmark Worldwide www.landmarkworldwide.com and Landmark South Africa locally, which I did in 1997 and participated with for decades and WomanWithin, www.wfa.org.za which I did in 2016 and really helped me access my feminine energy. I cannot recommend them highly enough.
What advice would your 85 year old self give you about your confidence & self love, today?
Keep transforming yourself, don’t sell out on yourself, EVER! Look inside and see what feels right and give yourself permission to listen that heart over your head or other people’s desire for your life.
If you were 5% kinder to yourself, starting tomorrow, what would you start doing differently?
I’d start my day with yoga or walking on the promenade, every week day and I’d not give up dancing because I have too much work to do. I’d allow sufficient time for sleeping every day until my body wakes me versus the alarm clock.