Last month I discovered that I’d been featured in Leadership Magazine as one of 30 women to watch in South Africa!
Naturally I was completely stoked and the ol’ ego was enjoying the stroking!
I honestly had no idea until I saw it! Obviously, I knew that I was going to be featured in the magazine, because I had submitted my copy and photo, but I thought it was going to be a small little column next to a bigger article. I had no idea it was going to land me as one of 30 women to watch in South Africa!
Finding Out I’d Been Featured
Having sent through my information, I didn’t know when the article would be out, so I was taken aback when someone made me aware of it. I’d been chit-chatting for about 5 minutes with Karen Wessels from Snappsales who’d just given an inspiring talk at the Lionesses of Africa networking event.
Here’s how that conversation went…
Karen: Congrats on your listing as one of 30 women to watch in the Leadership Magazine.
Me: Thanks. What?
Karen: Your feature. In the magazine. One of 30 women.
Me: No, I think you’re confused.
Karen: No, really. It’s you. With your name, your photo, the little graphic.
Me thinking: She doesn’t know who I am. We’ve been talking all this time and she thinks I’m someone else.
Me: No, you’re confused.
Karen: Abigail, it’s you, I promise you.
Me thinking: Oh, she does know my name. But maybe the pages were stuck together and it looked like I was part of that article.
Me: I knew I’d sent something in, but they didn’t tell me anything about 30 women to watch and they didn’t tell me when it would be out. Maybe you read it wrong.
Karen: I’m telling you, go get the magazine!
So that’s how I found out…
Ego VS Purpose
I was chatting to a friend recently, telling her about this experience and I confessed that I had a momentary feeling of conflict about the feature.
On the one hand, my ego absolutely LOVED it! While paying for the magazine at the newsagent, I considered flicking to the relevant page and showing the teller my photo!! I will also admit that I walked with an extra spring in my step on the way back to the car.
While driving home, still cruising on cloud nine, I suddenly felt a pang of self-judgement as I remembered what I had written. It was about my confidence crusade and my mission to elevate the confidence of all women – something I’m deeply passionate about and sincerely desire. This write up wasn’t about ME it was about my mission. That was the intention all along. So why had I let it all go to my head for a brief moment? Naturally the ego subsided and normality was restored.
A few days later I made the realisation that there is a balance that can be achieved between the ego and the purpose. While we’re achieving our successes our purpose is being expressed and realised. Those successes should most definitely be celebrated and our egos will certainly enjoy that part. But how do you celebrate the successes without the ego running off like a toddler in a shopping mall?
how do you celebrate the successes without the ego running off like a toddler in a shopping mall?
In my opinion, the fundamental balance between the ego and the purpose is that of inspiration for others. By achieving our successes, we are inspiring others to find and follow their purpose. So it’s ok to give the ego a little stroking on the path to achieving your purpose, but do it in a way that inspires those around you to succeed on their own missions.
How do you celebrate your successes? How do you keep your ego in check? What’s your purpose? Let me know in the comments below.