Four years ago we were preparing to walk into a forest on the foothills of Table Mountain to exchange vows. It’s amazing how time flies and how much can change in a relatively short space of time. Between then and now, we’ve packed up and moved countries twice, we’ve each made huge strides in our careers and we’ve settled into our happy place called Cape Town.
If you’d told me 4 years ago that this is where we’d find ourselves, I would never have believed you!
One thing I’ve come to realise over the past 4 years, is that you don’t know what the future holds, and specifically for brides, a wedding is so much more than just 1 day. A recent article that’s doing the rounds online this week alludes to that fact. That the details of the actual day, don’t ACTUALLY matter. Sure there are things that you’ll remember not going according to plan, but so what? Does anything ever go perfectly? We’re human, so I’m guessing not.
And besides, the wedding day is just 1 part of a very long journey. It’s the mere starting point, where you limber up, take your positions and wait for the minister to announce “On your mark”…”Get set”…”Go!!” That’s when all the years of training, practicing and effort of courtship, really pay off. When the foundation of a good relationship will determine how well you’re going to do in this race we call marriage.
And just because you’ve been practicing, doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. In order to reach gold…en anniversary, you’re going to need to keep on training, keep on making the effort and keep on aiming to better your time…together. It’s about identifying where your strengths and weaknesses lie and finding a way to maintain the good and improve the bad.
I’m talking to myself here. It’s too easy for day to day life to take priority and the person who vowed to stand by you through thick and thin gets forgotten and taken for granted. I know. I’m guilty of it. Then anniversaries (another year gone!) roll around and remind you to re-prioritise your priorities. Of the 365 days that have passed, how many were dedicated to the one you share your home, heart and life with? Hmmm…(pangs of guilt)
As weekends go, between both our work schedules, they just fly by, often without us having spent much time together. So in light of our marital celebration, we’re taking this weekend off, packing up the pup, and we’re heading out on a mini-roadtrip. Yay! Hopefully the first of many this year.
So, note to self and you: take the time DAILY to appreciate and acknowledge the one you’re with. Even if it’s the smallest of acknowledgements. A hug while they’re washing the dishes. A peck on the cheek while they’re hanging out the laundry. Or a quick “I Love You” as they’re running out the door on their way to work. It’s the small things that count.
And speaking of small things… did I ever tell you about one of the few obsessions The Hubby and I share? Stationery. We like stationery. A visit to Waltons is like a visit to a candy store. We can happily mill around eyeing the odd ballpoint pen or office gadget. Seriously.
So lucky girl that I am, I was spoilt this morning with some new additions for my little office space. Bliss.